Obnoxious and Mean comments..

Harshan (away) Nambiar said

Nice topic Sudha. A good comment is one which encourages the artist with their positives and also gives them pointers for improvement.

There are 3 categories of singers/composers here on this site based on what I have observed.
1. Trained and pro quality singers.
2. Untrained but highly gifted singers.
3. Untrained, not so gifted but highly passionate.

In either case, the person has to be appreciated for taking the time and creating something and sharing their work.

Basically when it comes to the nay sayers…I would say they belong to the group of people who would never do something, and wouldnt want someone else to try -or they want to show off that they have read and know a lot about music without practicing it :) basically spreading negative energy….cant help it because we also come across these in our day to day lives….so ignore and delete their comment if one feels its NOT done in the right spirit of this forum.

Ganpati Bappa Morya. !!!
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Latha Ganti said

Very good topic Sudha,Acknowledgment &a good feed back of good performance increases the probability of more good performances. telling people exactly what you liked about what they did and why you liked it will increase the confidence of that singer! It’s natural for people to do better once they get positive feedback. I guess Some people are usually afraid of judgement and rejection, which is why they are scared to interact or visit other people works. And I tell you this….a little positive feedback goes a LONG way towards developing confidence and to do better & better .
I completely agree with Harshan sir regarding ignoreing & deleting such harsh comments.
At any way i would love to share a few steps to handle Negitive feed back Which i have read it some another day .
The first step – Dont react.:)
2.Try to assess if the feedback is true or not .
3. Reply to the person in kindness ( this is the main thing which keeps your mind so healthy. ( believe me :) }
The question then isn’t on how we can avoid negative feedback, but to learn to roll and deal with them is a big task. If you can learn to handle negative feedback effectively, it will be a crucial skill that will help us in our journey of growth.

God bless you all !Happy Ganesh chaturdhi !

Rahul (getting back to routine) said

Good topic Sudha Ji:) Always a brain teaser for me:) I have had my share of such feedbacks on this forum and I have dealt it my way:) As you mentioned, a healthy feedback goes a long way towards any artist’s improvement. Pointing out the mistakes in such a way which is not offensive/hope killing but encouraging is the key here. About negative feedbacks and ways to handle it, my way is somewhat along the lines with what Latha Ji and Sree has iterated, such feedbacks if targeted towards personal attack to the singer needs to be dealt the same way as someone attacking you physically. In the latter case you won’t ignore but defend yourself. Similarly, Just give them a piece of your mind:) Ignoring them will encourage these naysayers to keep spreading such “GANDH” all over the forum. Some people will ignore it but some could really get offended and succumb which is the win of such naysayers. They need to be treated the same way as any nuisance. Also as a community we all need to stay by each other and stand tall to such Rat********.
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Adina Galani said

I have been following this discussion ever since it started and I notice an unanimity in oppinions which seems healthy of course. Mean comments, well, it happens, some out of pride, some out of private matters, some out of too much time in hands, or a mood of throwing stones to see how loud that may sound like. I think we all, in the very beginning, got everything for good, got hurt, went through fire and/or ice, because of one or another comment. One of the most frustrating phase, has been, when my duet partners have been badly hurt by certain comments on team works, where they have also put their 100% like everyone does. And those such comments, were neither friendly nor constructive at all. I doubt, sincerely, 4-5% of the oppinions expressed, may them be for good or not, are really meant the way they sound like and that because of too many factors, including but not limited to, pardon me, the groupism phenomena which is human otherwise and had existed ever since the history is there. Personally, what I learned from this forum is that, if I want to really learn, I have to get me a GURU, if I want to get hurt this is one of the best places I might be looking for such an adrenaline increasing experience as well as if I want to get professional feedback there is a hand of people I can rely on and that, fully, and, on the same line, even with 0 feedback on my songs, I personally know, there would always be some or the other, who would genuinly listen to my renditions, giving them the credit of, not a professional leveled singing as I am not in the precious box, thanks the Divine for it, but for the fact I have, at once, poured a part of my feelings into them and was ready to share in my limited way of expressing art.
One can’t believe how many of those quiet ones are getting not hurt, but almost traumatised by certain feedbacks coming on or offline, and simply get away keeping quiet and giving up, because of those “morally constructive” comments. Sure, debate is healthy, hard working as well, only thing, we are not absolutely all aspiring to be stars or biting someone else’s career, many, many of us, just enjoy singing totally and at 100% level best of our moods and capacities.
Adina